Thursday, November 23, 2023

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

The opening sentence on Charles Bukowski got me into this, and the second paragraph on Buddhism kept me going. At the end, what I found was priceless! I think what Mark Manson brings us from his book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" is way different and unique from many self-help stuff out there. Instead of being positive, he focuses on dealing with negativities, which are inevitable in our lives. Along with recommending this to everyone who interested in, here are some facts that caught my attention, 

From the first place, as it is in the title, "attention" is one of the key facts of life. Most of the time, what we are concerned about, what we mostly care about (as he put it, giving a F*uck), is the root cause of our problems. What social media, which totally depends on attention, is doing to us nowadays is distracting us from the realities of life. Our lives sucks because we give too much unnecessary "F***" s. We think we are entitled and should be happy and comforted all the time. You are going to be bothered all the time if you think like that. Carefully choose what to give a "F***" and what to cut off.

We should be aware of our values, because they difies the quality of our lives and our problems. Simply, values underlie everything we do. There are good values, and there are also bad values. For example, we can take pleasure as a bad value. If you want to be pleased and feel good all the time, you are in big trouble. You are not much different than a drug addict. There are things that are necessary in our lives that are not so pleasurable to do. Happiness should be a byproduct of what we do, not a main value. Money and material success can also be taken as bad values. We sometimes prioritize them over internal values such as honesty, integrity, and compassion. The thing is, we have very little control over the materialistic world. Money, status symbols, and popularity are external facts and very volatile. We can lose them at any time. Good values are more related to our inner qualities, such as courage, creativity, and humility. They are immediate and controllable. So the good values that F*** worthy are always reality-based, socially constructive, immediate, and controllable.

Life is mortal and can be taken from us at any time. It is very important to confront this morality of existence. While we chase a bit more fame and attention and a few bucks more, the ground realities of life get trampled under our feet. Accept the death of yours, accept the responsibility of your own problems, accept your failures, and embrace rejections. See what is going to be your legacy—what you are going to leave to this world.

Before you leave, live a good life.

1 comment:

  1. Thank you for the insightful article. I concur with the idea that detachment from material attachments leads to a state of profound contentment, akin to a balanced equilibrium between happiness and sadness. This philosophy aligns with the essence of Buddhism, where letting go of worldly possessions and desires is seen as a path to true fulfillment. I believe the writer has been inspired by the profound teachings of Buddhism, capturing its essence in the article. - Mayya -